Some people think that “disagreements mean the death of a conversation” , just like Emil Ludwig. But others believe that discussions can even be a good thing, and unavoidable. Is this so? We try to find some answers in this article. We look for the phrases and words that end a disagreement.
Professor Javier Escrivá Ivars is director of the Masters in Marriage and Family at the University of Navarra and professor at the University of Valencia. He believes that arguing is good, but that a fight is devastating. By this he means that we may not break certain rules in a discussion. This is especially important if we don’t want this exchange of views to become destructive. And in order to do this, there are certain phrases that can be extremely useful.
What words can you use to end a disagreement?
We will now introduce you to some expressions that can help you nip a discussion in the bud before it turns into a fight. But of course there are no magic wands that can solve everything. So don’t forget what to do if a conversation gets heated. Do as Professor Excrivá Ivars says and try to be humble and generous. Also, never forget how important empathy is.
These are indispensable tools if you really want to improve your life, your relationships and your discussions. Because otherwise a very ordinary conversation can suddenly cause a lot of damage
If what you say is correct…
This is a sentence that shows that you acknowledge that you and the other person have points of resemblance. So in a discussion, in a moment of conflict, we do not encourage the distance between us and the other. On the contrary, we will try to encourage closeness and mutual agreement.
In any case, only use this sentence if you really agree with what you will say you agree with. As Escrivá says, don’t just cling to straws in the hope that you’ll be right. Because that way it won’t work, or at least not the way you want it to. So make sure you really agree with the arguments you’re emphasizing. Also, humbly accept your mistakes so that you really come to an agreement together.
I feel (so) when you say…
In our life we have most discussions with people close to us. As a result, just because they are so important, these moments of misunderstanding create a lot of discomfort and conflicting emotions. Then why not openly say what you feel?
In a discussion it is important that we share our feelings with the other person. If something the other person says hurts you, let them know so you’re able to have the conversation in a positive way. Also do this so that the issue does not get out of hand.
This statement during a discussion means that we take responsibility and are aware of how we feel. But be careful not to put the blame on others. You can express your discomfort without pointing the finger.
I’m sorry to make you angry. Tell me how you feel so I can understand you better…
This is another sentence that can steer a discussion in a different direction. Perhaps the other’s point of view seems really absurd to you. But if you start mocking or ridiculing the other person, for example, you cause more damage than good.
On the other hand, if you try to empathize and understand the feelings of the person you are arguing with, you can see where they come from. That way you can better analyze the situation and really understand what is going on. You will see where the problem comes from and how you can come to an agreement and find solutions together.
Why don’t we try to support each other?
Professor Escrivá Ivars recommends another useful phrase to use in a discussion. Sometimes it’s best to emphasize what you agree on and put your differences aside. That way, the listener will see that you are an honest person who genuinely wants to reach an agreement and not start a fight.
Here you show that you are positive and have no intention of digging into issues that will only tear you apart. In fact, this approach is very useful for turning a verbal fight into a collaborative relationship.
I’ve made mistakes and I’m very aware of them
There is no such thing as a perfect person. We are all imperfect beings and so will make mistakes. A discussion is therefore undoubtedly the perfect time to acknowledge our mistakes. This is especially true if you are partly responsible for causing the impending situation.
To do this, it’s best to be honest and humble. The other person will no doubt be grateful. Still, it’s not easy to admit your mistakes, especially in heated moments. But try it anyway because it will be worth it.
Do you and the significant person in your life or a family member have constant disagreements? Don’t you like to argue or do you think you can make that whole ordeal a little more pleasant? Then be brave enough to put these sentences into practice. But do it honestly and from the heart. With time and practice, your discussions will improve.