The problem for many of us is that they believe that they will be happy when they reach a certain level in life. Unfortunately, it is a dangerous spiral to only see your happiness in the future and attach conditions to it. Be proactive in the present!
This carrot that we keep in front of ourselves – depending on how we manage it – can be a great motivation or a constant source of frustration. Now the question is: what can you do for yourself? How can you be proactive in your own life?
Think about how the present is the only time that is guaranteed. The present is life. Do not put any more conditions on your happiness in the future, and breaking the chains that you have dragged with you from the past… This is learning to live in the ‘here and now’. This gives the present a chance. Be proactive in the present moment.
People sometimes say they haven’t “found” themselves yet. However, yourself is not something you find, but something you create. There is only a small part of the universe that you are guaranteed to be able to improve (although sometimes you don’t know how), and that part is you.
Be proactive and start creating your own happiness
When someone makes you happy, you somehow compromise your own ability to make yourself happy. Happiness is often found where we decide to look for it. If we are proactive and seek happiness within the possibilities we have, it is very likely that we will find it.
In life get you rare opportunities; you create them. We’ll never be completely sure that something will work, but we do know that it won’t work if you shroud yourself in indifference. We have everything we need now to take the next step. So, be proactive. Look for those opportunities.
Instead of waiting for big things to happen – marriage, children, winning the lottery – you can place happiness in places that are closer, sooner. We’re talking about the ‘little things’. The cherishing of a cup of coffee, the smell of a home-cooked meal, the pleasure of sharing something you enjoy, enjoying moments with friends or others.
Start being yourself
When you try to be someone else, you’re wasting the person you are. You can be yourself. Embrace the person in you. Be the person you know you are; work on being the best version of yourself. The version you have pushed aside for so long has become a stranger to you. You may have even become afraid of that person because it has become a stranger.
One of the biggest challenges for people who want to grow is learning to accept what cannot be changed. Sometimes it’s better to accept something and adapt than to stay busy with something that has no solution.
As hard and sad as it sounds, the world sets limits on us that we can’t always jump over or move around. So it’s not about accepting a mediocre life, but rather learning to love and appreciate things when they’re not perfect, even if it’s about you.
While many decide to dedicate themselves to their careers at some point in their lives, few continue with it after the first hurdles they encounter. Be proactive. Try to own your own choices and mistakes. Don’t be afraid of reinforcements that will keep your motivation up. Motivation is still the light and energy that moves you forward.