Three Secrets To Make A Good First Impression

Three secrets to make a good first impression

It’s true, there are many myths surrounding the first impression. Some people make very good first impressions, but terrible second, third, fourth impressions. But the opposite can also happen: you meet someone and immediately assume that they are untrustworthy. You feel like you definitely don’t get along with him, and then you realize you were very mistaken.

The first impression is especially important in professional situations or when socializing. In these cases, it’s impossible for others to really get to know you at first, so the first impression will set the tone. We’ve all had moments when we felt the need to make a good first impression. After all, it can open doors and break down obstacles.

According to psychologist John Bargh of Yale, we form our first impression of someone within two tenths of a second. It arises from the limbic system. This first impression is reflected in the willingness or interest we then show to build a connection with someone. If the first impression is good, we are more open, and vice versa.

In professional situations it becomes more calculating. You don’t act the same for a boss as you do at home in your living room. And it has nothing to do with hypocrisy, but rather with a reasonable estimation that there are certain expectations you have to meet. If you want to make a good first impression now, here are three tips.

Being natural: the first secret to a good first impression

Acting naturally does not mean being shameless or rude. A job interview or an academic presentation is certainly not the same as partying with your friends or watching television in bed. Going too far with spontaneity can make you come across as rude or arrogant.

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Being natural means showing an image that aligns with the person you really are. That is, if you are a messy person, don’t try to project the image of a neat person. What you can do is try to control this aspect of yourself if you think it could be harmful in the context. For the first impression: highlight your strengths and limit your weaknesses. But you have to be aware of it first.

Go ahead and put on some makeup, but not so much that someone thinks you’re a different person or doesn’t recognize you when you take it off. Think of naturalness like your sense of smell: people discover it immediately.


It will be hard for someone to trust you if you are not honest.  If you want to make a good first impression, but use lies or deceit to do so, you are undermining yourself. At the same time, you feel stress because you have to maintain the lie.

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Trust yourself, trust others and trust life. It’s better to say you don’t have the authority to talk about a particular subject because you don’t know enough than to embarrass yourself if you try to convince the other person of something by just making something up.

It’s better to admit you’re a little nervous than to pretend you’re confident but clearly tense. You don’t have to force anything. Trust that no matter how the situation ends, it will be the best outcome for you if you are honest.

Direct communication

Be specific with the posts you want to show. When asked, answer the person clearly and don’t get distracted by other topics. Try not to talk about other things. Think about how conversations leave a better first impression when the exchange between the speakers is dynamic.

It is important to be communicative. Don’t assume that your ideas are understood or that being concise is the same as getting to the point. Someone who doesn’t wait their turn shows insecurity and that’s not what you want.

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The point is to make it as simple as possible when you start a new relationship. This new connection is a blank slate. An opportunity to start writing clearly and beautifully. Relationships built on simplicity tend to work better.

A good first impression contributes to a good attitude on both sides. So from this perspective, a little makeup is okay, but do it intelligently and be yourself.

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