The society we live in tells us that we need as many things as possible, prompting us to pursue certain goals in order to achieve the safety and well-being they promise us. This idea that we need everything creates the desire to add to what we have, as if the more we have, the happier we will be. While in reality, the well-being we so eagerly seek is found in the realization that maturity involves learning to disconnect.
We don’t realize that the desire to add makes our lives more complicated, difficult and sometimes unbearable. It causes us a lot of stress and makes it seem like we don’t have enough time, when in reality we don’t. What happens is that we fill our lives with things instead of filling our souls, leaving us feeling empty.
Adulthood is learning to disconnect
In a world where adding is seen as a good thing, where accumulating useless things is representative of wealth, and where having more friends means we look better , learning to disconnect becomes an act of rebellion. This will test us, because we are going against a vision that the majority of people have, and that is quite a challenge.
When we do not exhibit the behavior that society expects of us, behavior that the majority of society repeats without being aware of it, we can count on criticism. Criticism of our values and ways of acting, anything to guide us back to socially acceptable behavior. Back to the idea that adding is important.
That place, the source of many of our fears and insecurities, is where we start layering—and more layers—in an effort to add. But maybe behind that happiness with your partner hides the fear of being abandoned, maybe behind that gratitude for all those friends there is a great fear of not being alone.
How many times have we not sought the approval of others? How many times have we stopped prioritizing because we were only focused on the people around us? Consequently, we have projected an image of a mature person who is responsible and surrounded by others. But at the same time, this has a price: the inability to disconnect and let go.
The liberation from embracing simplicity
Learning to disconnect is very important in order to stop adding useless things to our lives, many of which just cause us pain. Get rid of friends who are only interested in themselves, get rid of relationships with people who don’t really love you and stop buying things that just fill empty space because the only thing you add to this is your emotional emptiness.
When we are able to see that the happiness we seek by always adding to our lives is a mirage, we will be ready to change the perspective we have had of the world thus far. We will realize what we don’t need, what remains, what hinders us. We will know how to say goodbye to certain people and things.
Often enough we see how people with a lot of money feel empty or unhappy. We can also see that those people who have many friends are alone in difficult times. And what about those who brag about their romantic relationship, but are always looking for someone who can really make them feel something?
Ultimately , seeking refuge in the false security that comes with always adding to our lives will cause us to cling to unimportant things and pretend to agree with a situation that does nothing but cause turmoil in our lives. . A turmoil that forces us to let go, let go of complexity, and ultimately hurts us.
Learning to disconnect is not only ridding ourselves of everything that takes up unnecessary space, but also learning to restore the balance that should rule our lives. A balance that makes us feel good and happy. Although this is only possible if we stop clinging to the complex and start embracing the simple.