Let’s Not Be Made For Each Other

Let's not be made for each other

“I’m sorry, but you are not my happiness.  No, you’re not and that’s why I set myself free. I refuse to put my emotional life in your hands. If you were my happiness, your absence would be the last straw and I would have to live on the edge all the time. I don’t want to try to make you my property, that’s not really my style.

My well-being and self-fulfillment depend almost entirely on myself. Other things also contribute, but the internal process I’m going through won’t come from outside.

It’s so overwhelming taking on other people’s problems. I prefer to breathe for myself. Walking without crutches and just being myself. I don’t want to belong to you, nor do I want you to belong to me. We can be in a relationship, but let’s not be ‘made for each other’, please.

A psychological sense of well-being or the pursuit of happiness requires a personal and non-transferable compromise. It’s not something we get, buy, or legally own, it’s non-transferable. And since I’m not for sale, and hopefully neither are you, we have the opportunity to be free.

You do not determine my existence, nor do I determine yours. If it were, we wouldn’t be able to live without each other. You are not my happiness and fortunately I am not your partner and wife. The best relationship we can have is not to belong together. When you don’t own the other person, you respect him. And that is beauty, tenderness and independence.”

-Text written by Walter Riso-

Made for each other

The best relationship we can have is not to belong together. I want to reach a center, on an emotional level. I don’t want us to be made for each other, nor to be the love of each other’s lives. I don’t want to need you, I want to have a preference for you.

I don’t want to love you blindly. I don’t want to close my eyes. I want to open my eyes and see two complete people, both different and independent. Two people who offer each other passion, live in the moment and work together in each other’s lives.

being complete

I don’t want us to change or need each other. I want to put better halves aside. You can be whatever you want to be, but I won’t be the one asking you to change. The important thing is that we flow together.

We also don’t always have to flow hand in hand. Sometimes love passes and I don’t want to squeeze you all empty. So if you want to save some for later, go ahead. If you want to tear your skin off, I won’t stop you. That’s what it is.

In fact, there are two of us; not one. We’re not meant for each other either. I am my own and you are yours.


We all have a lifelong love

We all have a lifelong love, namely: ourselves. Only if I love myself unconditionally, with no insecurities or things holding me back, will I be able to love you the same way.

If being with you means giving up on myself, then this relationship isn’t going to work. People complain about not being loved. However, what happens is that we don’t know how to love ourselves.

We live in a dream where we want to satisfy our own needs and don’t even realize that true love is the love we feel for ourselves. So I don’t want to idealize each other; our love is not going to save us, nor will it solve our problems or provide us with emotional stability.

No one can love or grow for you or laugh for you or breathe for you. You are the only one who has the power to save yourself and create a healthy form of love. And that’s the best thing in this world.

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