‘Love yourself’ is a very popular adage, but – nevertheless – it is not always well understood. Authentic self-love is because no matter of action (business), but rather a state of mind and being, which you deeply feel positive about, and at peace with yourself. In that regard, it is invaluable to your overall well-being. It also greatly influences the quality of your social interaction with others, as well as your self-image – privately and professionally – plus how you deal with (spontaneously) confronting and challenging problems.
(being able to) cherish yourself inwardly, from within, proves time and again to be an indispensable element of and for an intrinsically sustainable experience of happiness. Yet (b) such enlightened “self-love” seems extremely out of reach for many of us, just at times when we most need that inner affection. Please don’t confuse this with narcissism – this is about intimate contact with our own experience, about the recognition and recognition of our thoughts and feelings, about our holistic physical and psychological health.
What is self-love (then it is)?
Self-love is not simply being physically and emotionally comfortable in your own skin, nor is the successful spreading – socially speaking – of a desired, gold-glossy image. It’s not publishing inspirational quotes on your Facebook timeline, or even seeking out the heartwarming company of your loved ones. Nor is it – necessarily – enjoying solo (pampering) activities for which you free up agenda space, especially for yourself. Pleasant as such pursuits and initiatives may be, they are not necessarily expressions of pure self-love.
Self-love is an unconditional appreciation of yourself, partly based on – in a practical sense – integrated care for our mental and physiological well-being, and on stimulating our spiritual growth.
Self-love is dynamic, always evolving, and comes to fruition through our daily doings, through displaying and displaying our enlightened maturity. By acting in accordance with the wisdom of our heart, self-love expands in all directions. We will learn to better understand our strength as well as our weakness, and moreover accept – more and more. We are less likely to get defensive, or feel the need to apologize to ourselves when we are pointed out to our flaws.
From this understanding basic attitude, compassion arises for ourselves, as a beautiful but vulnerable person, in search of the meaning (and purpose) of his (or her) existence. It shifts our focus to highly personally salient issues: from your existential destiny to your particular value system . In short: ideals and ambitions that we hope to realize with the help of our very own energy and commitment.
Seven steps to give our self-love an honest impulse
- Be alert and self-aware : People with a greater degree of self-love, know what they think, feel and desire. They know themselves from oat to barley, and practice such insight. They do not behave shyly to other people’s whims and whims, but are stable in their own balance.
- Fulfill your needs, not your desires : Loving does not require you to give in to the whims of others, but to offer them what they really need. The same applies to the relationship to and with yourself. By paying attention to what you really need, you are at the same time less susceptible to the diabolical allurements of self-destructive and retarded (ie, anchored in the past) behavior, and unfavorable automatisms.
- Personal Care and Healthy Habits : Practicing love for yourself also means properly satisfying your hygiene, home, and basic exercise needs. In other words: keeping your body and living environment clean and comfortable, healthy nutrition, sports, yoga, meditation, enough sleep and friendly social interactions.
- Setting and indicating boundaries : Those who love themselves have the strength, power, and possibility to say ‘ no ‘ to that which has a negative effect on or in them – physically, emotionally, spiritually.
- Protect Yourself From Toxic People: Someone who is serious about self-love doesn’t get dragged into the swamp of cynics or critics, and doesn’t waste his or her precious time on people who try to spoil their minds.
- Forgive yourself, have mercy : We, as humans, can be very harsh internally. But taking responsibility for our actions doesn’t mean we have to damn ourselves forever for an unsuspected mistake. No, self-love humbly invites us to learn from our mistakes and – sooner or later – mercifully forgive them.
- Live from a clear intention : To accept and love yourself more fully and wholeheartedly, it is important to be and remain aware of what is happening in your busy existence, and what you are working towards, or aiming for . If you’ve set yourself a goal (and not suffer too much from it ) to live a healthy and meaningful life , then your daily decisions should support and fulfill this fruitful purpose. The more you do that, the better you will feel, about and within yourself. Self-love flourishes under such luminous discipline, when you bear faithfully and honor your aspirations. And it all starts with determining your target and long-term plans.
You can never love another – anyone – more than yourself. That is also why it is an absolute necessity that we learn to love ourselves unadulterated. Only then can we unfeignedly open our hearts to our fellow human beings.