We like to talk about love as we see it in the movies. We also like to feel it on our skin, to hear that special someone say our name with understanding, tenderness and care. We like to feel it, we experience it, make plans and become a better person. Because we love stories that change the rhythm of our hearts.
That’s how we like to talk about romance. The kind with happy endings – but just that beautiful kiss at the end, and not so much the day-to-day aspects. We focus on the beautiful, the magical, the conquering and the courtship, the love that we sometimes unconsciously seek and long for.
There is nothing more beautiful than a good story about how two people met, fell in love and started the adventure of their relationship. But what about what happened next? They don’t tell us about the everyday moments in your pajamas and without flowers, hanging out at home and going shopping together. We don’t like to talk about this part because there is no magic. But this is still love.
We all want a happy ending, but how do we ever get there without all those small steps? The ending is not the first kiss like you see in the movies. Also, the end is not walking hand in hand, or getting engaged, or getting married. The ending is often when the feeling runs out, although you rarely see that in the movies.
We like to talk about love, but it’s much more than what we think it is. People build and work on their happy stories every day. The key to overcoming difficult beginnings is the effort each person is willing to put in. If everyone puts a lot into it in the end, success will multiply.
Do happiness and love go hand in hand?
Maybe yes and maybe not, or more realistically, sometimes yes and sometimes not. Sometimes love makes us cry, hurts us and makes us doubt, but it has to be worth it. We should also talk about this side of love and listen to the other side of the story, which we usually don’t hear.
Happiness can be found in many areas of life, so it would be a mistake to think that it can only come from love. Too many people seek romance and need it because they feel like they’re missing a part of themselves. But remember, we’re already done. Seek to add to yourself, not complete yourself.
We like to talk about happy love, which is why we might associate happiness with love so much. Encouraged by the hope it brings, it is not surprising that we are so idealistic. But the princes and princesses in the stories also have to live their everyday lives and face the challenges of sharing their lives together. While all this is going on behind the scenes, it’s not good to just believe and talk about what we see on screen.
The rest of the story
So now we’re going to tell the story of a couple we admire. They still loved each other, after the first date, the first kiss, the first day of waking up together. They went to bed every night thinking that they would wake up next to the person they had chosen with all their hearts. They also quarreled sometimes. Sometimes they hated each other, or couldn’t find the right words to say. But despite all that, they were happy.
Their story didn’t start well. There were many obstacles in their path and they had quarrels, but with a lot of work and affection they were able to overcome this.
But we won’t stop there. We go on to the end. It’s not a happy ending, but a real ending.
The love between them was not always enough. Someone else came on the scene and brought their story to its end. So not everything ends with “happily ever after”. There are different kinds of love, not just the beginning and not just the beautiful parts. There is a whole story, a real story, which is much more exciting (and yes, sometimes more boring).