Depression and anxiety do not equate to weakness, nor are they the result of personal choice. We cannot determine whether or not we allow these mental illnesses to accompany us.
New. That’s not how it works with emotional problems. It’s not as black and white as ‘I feel bad and plunge myself into an abyss of sadness or fear to see if I’m going to crash’ . Emotional problems are not signs of weakness or vulnerability or ill will, nor are they signs of giving up or neglect.
Actually, we could say that they are signs of struggle, of a struggle with adversity or uncomfortable and painful personal situations, losses, bad experiences and insecurities.
Depression and Anxiety Are Not Personal Choices
It can happen to any of us. One day you realize that everything has lost its meaning, that there is nothing to encourage and motivate you, that you have trouble getting out of bed and that you feel deeply sad or irritated.
Or maybe your breathing suddenly speeds up and you experience an inability to deal with life in a ‘smooth and easy’ way. Somehow you feel overwhelmed by the circumstances, powerless or desireless. This state comes and goes or stays with you permanently.
Then you start to think that you may need to see an expert to confirm that you have been ‘overtaken’ by deep sadness or enormous worries that make you feel like you can’t cope with everyday life.
Perhaps you have experienced a strong personal loss and suddenly something happens that overflows and throws you into despair.
As a result, you enter a state of anxiety, depression, or a mixture of these. You avoid others, prefer to stay at home, feel that you can no longer perform the tasks or activities that you previously performed well.
In short: everything is terrible, but you can’t get out of it. At this point, you need an expert to support you with an explanation that will give emotional coherence to this situation and help you overcome it.
It’s critical that we follow the key steps in the process: asking for psychological support to balance our emotional state and “heal” our thoughts.
Comments that choke us
When we suffer from depression or anxiety, our relationship with our environment and the people around us changes. This situation is not easy for anyone and it is possible that some people will react critically to you and not support you. Perhaps you will be confronted with misunderstanding or mean remarks.
“You’re like this because you choose to be,” “Come on, get up and do something with your life,” “You’re a good-for-nothing,” “You’re too old to act so stupid,” “Don’t cry, so bad isn’t it’, ‘You’re a coward’, ‘Be strong for once and stop this nonsense’…
This only feeds the sadness, apathy and fear towards life more. Let us remember that such comments and attitudes contribute to the negative thoughts that pollute our minds. As a result, our minds will only become more darkened.
Apparently, it indirectly causes us to become even more deeply involved in our habits and isolate ourselves even more, and it reinforces the vicious circle that led us into this trap in the first place. Far from providing clarity about our condition and having the correct information about it, our atmosphere is becoming more and more tense and hazy.
In our society there is an awful lot of misconceptions and even cruelty surrounding psychological and emotional pain. Really, the way we evade and scorn psychological health issues is truly terrifying.
You don’t ignore a wound that has become infected or that won’t stop bleeding, do you? No, you’re not doing this. Just as we cannot ignore physical pain, we cannot ignore psychological pain. We must give our emotional wounds the importance they deserve, for psychological distress requires treatment and support to heal.
In other words, we cannot expect time to heal us, because there is a risk that it will not. If only we could choose not to have problems by enjoying every moment and always feeling good… But we cannot avoid it and this danger obviously exists for everyone.
The sooner we understand this, the sooner we will learn to take care of ourselves the way we deserve and not to feed depression and anxiety.